Three Things Thursday 3 — Free Ways to Live Well(er)

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I started this series, thinking it would be fun to share three things I love which help me enhance my Mind, Body and Spirit in less than 750 words. Last week’s offered Art, Apps and Apologies and it went over the limit due to captions (and my inability to censor myself).

I am meeting with the “aging consultant” for my parents today to discuss their situation, as requested by my father. I know that this meeting will only be tenable emotionally because it will happen on the heels of my yoga class. I will need every whisper of namaste during this meeting over hummous, pita points, and cucumber medallions dipped in tzatiki.

I taught sixth graders a bit of yoga this week; I love sharing the gift of yoga with people. Especially children, who have waaaaaay too many responsibilities these days placed upon their narrow shoulders. I showed them how the best gift we can give ourselves is the gift of slowing down. I doubt they’ll adhere to it now, but maybe when they’re my age they might remember.

All of this brings us to three free things:

Mind: Meditate

Slow down and meditate. I don’t mean sit in criss-cross applesauce and hum Ommmmmmm to yourself. I mean to be where you are (if you’re not driving) and just calm the heck down. Calm. Yourself. Down.

"Just Let Go. Be the Leaf." learning, and loving this app, "Drawing Carl" on my ipad.

“Just let go… be the leaf.” learning, and loving this app, “Drawing Carl” on my iPad.

Here’s how: Imagine a place you love, a beach, a forest, a mountain, a lakeside and close your eyes. See that place and as you inhale, count down from 5, 4, 3, 2, and 1… pause and exhale counting down from 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 … pause. When you increase the exhale, you are releasing oxytocin and dopamine, and feeling good. Other than the nicotine addiction, this is one of the reasons smokers smoke… the inhale and the exhale; they savor it. If smokers could learn to do this without the cigarette, they’d be golden. Do this five times at first and stay in your favorite place. Just be. If a thought comes in, don’t judge it, let it drift away. Just let go. If you want to do more than five times, do! Wanna know when to stop? The MOMENT it becomes irritating to your spirit, body or mind. Take in one last breath and exhale normally. Try it again later.

Body: Nap

A nap. Sounds easier said than done. As a mother, I wear many hats. One of them is crazed insomniac. I don’t know if it’s hormones, but I’m not getting much sleep at night these days. Soon I’ll be popping the Geritol. That comment used to get laughs, now it just gets knowing sighs and nods. When you’re not driving, respond to your body giving you a tug to lay down and nap. This is different than the meditation. For in meditation, we need to be conscious. We aren’t working out crises or other stuff, as we do in REM dreaming. But take a nap. I took one last week, after the norovirus, and I slept for four hours. I was ready to take hostages before the nap: shaky, agitated, unfocused, bumping into things. Then I took the nap and I felt human. Homo Sapiens even. Just close the blinds, turn off the phone, and nap.

Nap. Windows, couch, you. You can do this. You're allowed.

Nap. Windows, couch, you. You can do this. You’re allowed.

Soul: Perspective, life off the grid

I gave up Facebook for Lent. It was the best choice ever. I don’t know what will happen after Lent, but it’s only been two days and I’ve caught up on laundry (holla!), I’ve become OK with myself and the fact that I’m normal, not perfect, not wealthy, not fantastically domestic and not thinking as much in terms of “status updates.” I wrote (excessively?) about the impending need to unplug, the lie I’d been living and coming to terms with my vulnerability two days ago, Tuesday in one post and then I gave my rationale and cited reasons and a chronology of my obsession in a second post in the same day. Apparently I had some demons to exorcise. I was never addicted (in the clinical, life interrupted, fashion) to it, but I was close. I miss my FB friends, but I’m loving the life I’ve returned to so very much. Try it. Even for a weekend. The blue and white in the sky is waaaay more better (more better… like that?) than the blue and white on your monitor.

Unplug to plug in to life.

Unplug to plug into life.

Hmm. A common theme: not driving and not online and loving yourself. Go for it.

Thank you.

2 responses »

  1. I am so happy to hear that you are being so productive! Guess what I just woke up from a nap!!! I certainly feel better than before I lay down, so that is a plus…..I will try the breathing exercises and see how that goes, because everyone deserves a little moment in time, right? I have also been thinking the same as you, with unplugging…..I’m an info hound, so to speak, so I have been researching a lot of different things that are pertinent to me right now, but I still need to turn it off…..I have spent fewer minutes/hours on the computer the past couple of days and will likely continue to limit my time…..Thank you for reinforcing this idea!

    I hope you have been editing……………….can’t wait to read “THE BOOK”.

    BTW, Have a wonderful Valentines Day……………….hope your fellas get you something sweet!

    Hugs,
    AC

    • Thanks Alesia! I am glad you had a wonderful nap. They are more than restorative for me, they are like gifts. Especially when I take them in response to a need. Thank you for your support of my ideas and book and general “being” and “self.”

      Unplugging has been wondrous for me; i know you are in a different place and have different needs. for me: it was time. I will write share a post I wrote last week about my Valentine’s Day. It was nice, but it had to be ushered… I don’t feel free to celebrate those occasions because they feel foreign to me, but I learned something about myself and about life that day, the day I met with the aging consultant. I’ll share it soon.

      I hope you are well. I miss fb because of people like you, but my thoughts are more organic now, less prompted and self-conscious. That’s the best way I can describe it. It’s a welcome feeling for me.

      Keep in touch, you know where I am. Xoxo

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